Under the light of recent events, I was motivated to meticulously pen down my thoughts and try to encounter the reason behind this fiasco. We all are ashamed when such incidents happen in our society. And it is even sadder when some illiberal people tries to justify them. But why such psychology prevails in the mind of Indian men.
I think it all starts from school when a girl-boy interaction is prohibited by parents and teachers. As a boy, we were said not to be seen with a girl. We still hesitate to confront our relationships of any kind with a girl to our family. This makes our mind to think that a girl-boy interaction is something negative or forbidden (at least till marriage). This connection gives the male-female interaction a negative tag. Now, if you were to do something negative, like a murder or robbery, will you be concerned with the ethics of the method you opt to do it. NO! What you are doing is already illegal/negative, soo it doesn’t matter in what way you do it. Same thing happens here, with the negative tag to this male-female interaction, a man doesn’t hesitate to opt wrong methods to get female interaction, like eve-teasing, groping, rape, etc.
And where this inspiration come from? First, from their home (I’m talking about those conservative families), where women are treated like objects. Then a big thank to our Indian Cinema for portraying all the negative ways to get women. Our illiterate and imbecile part of the population have these “STARS” which they follow, and they copy everything they do on screen impetuously.
Parents need to talk to their sons about to how to handle their sexuality. They need to teach them the sanctity of male-female interaction. We have to build up a positive feeling in our children about this interaction. We can see in western countries, their cinema and parents promote a healthy outlook to male-female interaction. And hence guys try to approach girls in a better way through positive dialogue and then try to seduce her in a non-misogynist way.
So now, we are the ones to fix this. We need to educate and aware people about this issue. We have to develop a positive atmosphere about this subject and only then, can these misogynist acts will stop.