“All girls are raped”

This statement was said to me by a girl who contacted me yesterday after reading my last post on Suicide Awareness. She expressed herself and told me she wanted to commit suicide as her 2.5-year relationship has ended. I was trying to listen and console her, was trying to make her understand the bigger picture. I knew she was in that phase where she won’t listen to anything, but I was trying everything to distract her and telling her my stories. And suddenly I was telling her about a girl I was with a long time ago. She was divorced as she was raped by her husband. But her reaction to this was “Atleast, she was raped after marriage”. I was like what the fuck. I couldn’t respond for some time and then she replied “ALL GIRLS ARE RAPED”

I didn’t quite understand till she shared her experience of being molested when she was 4-5years old and raped by her classmates when 16 years old. I went numb. I was disgusted of even myself. I knew no possible thing to say to her. Then as I thought I realized that the last girl I was with was also molested when she was 12. Then it hit me hard, do all girls go through this. And it has pestered my brain. I can’t think of anything else. Can’t do anything and neither can stop me from feeling guilty.

I don’t understand what it is with this society? How such malevolent creatures are born?

Her ex physically abused her for being a rape victim and doubted her guilt in the act. FUCK! But she still wants to go to him because she thinks that no one would accept her as she is a rape victim. I guess she has been hanging with monsters since birth. Her own family doesn’t support her after knowing what all she has been through. I feel so sorry and horrible for her.

The only reason that there are male and female are to reproduce. We all are humans. What is between our legs doesn’t define you as a human. It shouldn’t label and restrict you.

Since the evolution of humans,  females were given the responsibility of reproducing and nourishing the offspring. It was a sedentary job. Whereas males were meant to hunt and protect, thus males were genetically more physical. But we have come a long way since then. Humans have built a society which compares people in terms of intelligence rather than physical strength. So why do we still care about the sex of the other person? How does it matter that whether I have a vagina or a penis between my legs? I’m a coder and I do my job with my fingers and my head.

Also, for women to do manly stuff is considered as a compliment. But if a guy does something even remotely related to a woman, he is less of a person? Seriously! You know what, if you think like that, FUCK YOU! Who is the one to decide roles in terms of gender. It’s an invalid criteria.

We need people to change the sick view they have about women. For example, menstruation is so frowned upon, like ewww, what’s that blood and mucus? Well, if your dad didn’t have sex with your mom, you would also be dispensed as the same mucus and blood. It’s what forms into a human and you find it gross. You can change the diaper of a baby with sick smelling shit, but if you spot a used sanitary napkin, you treat it like a nuclear waste. Embrace the menstrual cycle of the woman, it is something extra she has to go through to make sure assholes are born in our societies. Support them, make it easy for them, to ease their pain. They already have cramps, just don’t be another pain in their arse.

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Picture credits – Gaura Lohani (Gaura.lohani@yahoo.co.in) and Sagarika Behl (Sagrikabehl@yahoo.in) 

I just want to say that we some boys are with you. Speak against the crimes done against you, don’t loose hope and don’t break. We need to identify these victims and support them emotionally as even their own families don’t invest much in them because PARAYA DHAN. Seriously Fuck!

As for the girl, she feels disgusted and thinks that no one will accept her because she is a rape victim. I have been with a rape victim, it doesn’t matter. It is her bad luck that she grew up between the scum part of our society.

So I want you guys to leave a message for her to tell her how beautiful she is (I’m not saying she looks beautiful, but that SHE IS BEAUTIFUL). That none of it was her fault and she deserves a life much better than this. I’ll show it to her and then maybe this will put a smile on her face.

Thanks!

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Kiling yourself is not an option

Another student committed suicide. Another example of the pathetic condition of mental health management in this country. When will people realize that DEPRESSION is a disease and not just a phase. When will parents come out of the blindness caused by the pressure of the competition to be successful. What is success? Trading your whole youth so that you can die rich. Is it success? FUCK this success. This is all a farce concept created by the illusion of money and society.

We were born as a part of a sustainable ecosystem. It took billion of years for us to come here. We were meant to eat and reproduce. Humans built a society around the best tool they had. “BRAINS”. And this all led to the current concept we live in. Now some of us may be misfits, weird, unorthodox, but that doesn’t mean we don’t deserve to live. FUCK them who build this system for some selective people. And remember, every person who changed this world was regarded as an outcast by this society. So FUCK this society. It’s is only you that matters to you.

Maybe you are not meant to study. You can’t score well. You’re an artist. Or a philosopher. Maybe something you can’t make a living of. But nothing in this world is impossible. I remember this quote and nothing can say it better.

With the digitalisation of human lives, emotions are lost. There is no comfort in texting. There is no replacement of a warm hug on your difficult days. There is no better person to listen to you than your parents. If they don’t understand, try to make them. We can surely find someone who can listen to us and give us the support we need. And be the support if you feel someone needs it. A simple compliment can change someone’s life. I remember some days, where it was all dark, and a random word of comfort from someone changed my whole perspective.

REMEMBER! When you hurt yourself, you hurt the people you love more. Believe me, been there, done that. DON’T DO IT!

Your parents may not understand, your friends may not understand, the girl you loved left you. You lived through all this, then why end your life. Have you met the soulmate yet? Have you had the break of your career yet? What if you’re just one step closer? If you feel worthless, dedicate your life to better the lives of others and you’ll become the most special person to someone.

The modern age has caused a lot of chemical turbulences and with the loss of human interaction, and thus it is becoming difficult to cope with that. Sit with your grandparents, listen to their stories, spend time with family because they’ll always be there, play with a kid or dog, go for a road trip, talk to a begging child and play with them, you’ll learn how life should be lived.

Everyone, please listen to the words people don’t say. Give out hugs. Spend time with them. Ask them how they’re doing. And if you sense a fatal case, don’t ignore, do something about this.

You’re bigger than your problems, that taunts, that failures and this society. Spend time with yourself and identify what you can do and how you’ll do it. And enjoy life while doing it. There is no point in struggling through life if it’s not making you happy.

And if anyone feels like talking or sharing, hit me up. I’m always up for listening because I have been there. You just have to be strong and keep moving towards the light, and at the end, everything will be fine. And if it isn’t fine, I’m happy that I enjoyed the struggle through life and didn’t give up.

Friends we are here to listen, so speak up.